"When I moved to San Francisco I was nine,” she says, curled up against the cold in an oversized coat, and clutching a cup of herbal tea. “And I remember, when I’d been living in San Antonio, at break, you would go and play sports with all the boys. So I remember at recess going up to the other girls and being like, do you play basketball and soccer? And they were all looking at me like I was an alien. With the BOYS? I think one girl was actually doing her nails, they were the most sophisticated young people ever. And I thought it was so strange"